Wednesday, October 10, 2007

Friendships

A friend is one who knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts who you have become, invites you to grow and supports you in your journey.

When you are what I call emotionally enlightened, you attract and keep such people as true friends because:

* You accept them rather than judge them.
* You express your feelings and encourage them to do likewise.
* You take responsibility for your feelings and never lay guilt trips on them for how you feel.
* You show empathy, compassion, and understanding for their feelings.
* You are sensitive to their feelings and needs, but you do drain yourself by feeling responsible for meeting them. You recognize that each person is responsible for their own feelings, so your friends do not become burdensome to you.
* You do not blame them or attack them, so they do not need to feel defensive or to counterattack.
* You do not advise them or tell them what to do, since you know that this will foster dependency, rob them of the chance to grow, and possibly create resentment later on.
* You are honest with them, even when what you have to say is unpleasant for them, because (a) You respect them enough to honor them with the truth, (b) You want them to grow through awareness, and (c) You trust them enough to manage their own responses.
* When you express concerns you express them as statements of your feelings, not of their character.

A true friend is someone who helps you reach your highest potential, someone who helps you be the best you can be. At the early stages of your friendship a true friend gets to know the real you by frequently asking how you feel about different things. They ask questions like:

* What are your fears?
* What are your dreams and desires?
* What do you feel strongly about?
* What’s important to you?
* What infuriates you?
* What excites you?
* What are your values?
* What are your beliefs?

From this site: http://eqi.org/friends.htm#1. I have found it while researching and found from this site an article that hit me and enlightens me.

Monday, October 08, 2007

The Rembrants - I'll be there for you (Friends)

To all FRIENDS series fanatic....

So no one told you life was gonna be this way
Your job's a joke, you're broke, your love life's D.O.A.
It's like you're always stuck in second gear
When it hasn't been your day, your week, your month, or even
your year, but

{Chorus}

I'll be there for you
When the rain starts to pour
I'll be there for you
Like I've been there before
I'll be there for you
'Cause you're there for me too

You're still in bed at ten and work began at eight
You've burned your breakfast so far, things are going great
Your mama warned you there'd be days like these
But she didn't tell you when the world has brought you down to your knees, and

{Chorus}

No one could ever know me
No one could ever see me
Since you're the only one who knows what it's like to be me
Someone to face the day with
Make it through all the best with
Someone who always laughs at
Even when I'm at my worst, I'm best with you
Yeah!

{Chorus}

I'll be there for you
I'll be there for you
I'll be there for you
'Cause you're there for me too

John Lennon Tribute In My Life

The BEATLES song 'IN MY LIFE' written by John Lennon is a song reminiscing the childhood\teenage years. Some friends may come and go but the thing is the memories still remain. True enough there are places with moments... A moment to reminisce the happy times ü

LYRICS

There are places I remember

All my life, though some have changed

Some for ever, not for better

And some have gone, and some remained

All these places had there moments

With lovers and friends that I still can recall

Some are dead and some are living

In my life, I loved them all

But of all these friends and lovers

Still no one, compares with you

And these memories loose their meaning,

When I think of love as something new

No I will never, ever loose affection

For people and things that went before

I'll often stop and think about them

In my life, I loved you more

I know I'll never ever loose affection

For people and things that went before

I'll often stop to think about them

In my life, I loved you more

In my life, I loved you more

Monday, July 16, 2007


Superfriends Forever

By Stephanie Rose T. Bumanglag

As I go through on my ‘precious treasure box’ to look for some of my writings before (because I was planning to post them somewhere), I read some of the letters and greeting cards from my friends. SUPERFRIENDS. They were fond of giving cards during Christmas season, Birthdays, Valentine’s Day and even on an ordinary day just to remind that they’re always there. May be I was the only one among the superfriends who didn’t give a single card. But I never forget birthdays though. Well anyway, while reading them, my thoughts brought me back to college days, all the moments that we had, from the first day I became friends with them until graduation day where we had to part ways and find our own career paths. And so, while reminiscin’ on those memories, I thought to myself, why not write something about them, about FRIENDS, about how I met them. So here goes…

On our walks of life, yeah we meet different people with different personalities. We’ve all heard about this. From these people, there are some we consider as friends, some just acquaintances. Some may leave while others will stay. They say we don’t get to choose our friends, friends choose us. But whatever it is, I always believe that having the friends that we have right now is part of God’s plan for our lives and it’s also one way of showing His love for us.

When I entered college, I only had my sister to guide me on which room I would go for my classes. I didn’t even see any familiar faces on my very first class. Since my friends in high school took up different courses and went to different schools, I thought I would have to go through college all alone because I’m not that much of a friendly person. I tend to be reserved and a silent type. First year in the university, I was able to make friends. Actually, they were my schoolmates way back in high school. But sadly, they shifted to different courses for some reasons. So, that left me alone again. But the next year was not as difficult as the first one since I have gotten used to it and I have also known few people already. Days were spent at school then home. I have always been a home buddy person ever since. May be some or everyone (even) would consider it as no fun at all. But that was just my way of life. I wouldn’t call it as boring, more like a result for being reserved (I guess). Well anyway, my journey at school was changed when someone volunteered herself to accompany me during the enrolment. That was Louella, a girl who is always full of energy and who is easy to be around. I couldn’t forget that day-the beginning of a new friendship. I knew her already since we were classmates on some of our subjects but I think we haven’t spoken a word to each other until that time. She told me that I reminded her of an old friend from her high school years. That’s why she offered help during the enrolment (Lucky for me that I resembled to someone she had known). Since the second semester in second year was the start of having major subjects, she also helped me find a group for the upcoming projects. That was really nice of her and I was so surprised and so thankful on how she welcomed me as their new friend. And so there was Elva, who was kinda like the big sister. This was my first impression to her (she calls herself as Electrifying Elva these days). Then, Sheilamae-the blabber-mouthed. She was funny and sweet. These three girls were already friends. I just joined their circle. After awhile, came Lhea. She had her own set of friends but since we were group mates in a project, we got to hang out most of the time and then eventually, she became part of the circle. She was the most feminine among us. She had all these girls’ stuffs that I don’t even know about. Then lastly, Julius, he was the first ‘guy friend’ that I had (used to be a man-hater). Somehow he helped me a lot in relating with the opposite gender.

So college for me then had never been the same again. I had friends around- FRIENDS I shared stories with, FRIENDS I relied upon, FRIENDS I trusted, FRIENDS I cared and loved (and forever will be loved). We were best friends like friends should be. We have done things together, homeworks, projects, sleepovers, and stuffs. We cried together, laughed together and even fought with one another. Yeah, we also had our differences. We came from different homes and we were raised with different moral values. Some of our principles may not even be the same. But this is what’s great about friendship. We can be who we really are and still we accept each other. We have gone through a lot to reach this level of friendship-not an ordinary kind. We have always been there for each other and up to now, we are still the best of best friends. We may have chosen different paths but we still get to hang out just like old times. And I believe that no matter where our journeys will lead us, we will still have each other.

I don’t know how exactly we got the name Superfriends. I was just familiar with the super heroes from cartoon network before (who call themselves superfriends). Anyhow, superfriends sounds great (and I don’t think there’s a better name). We may not have super powers and the entire ‘saving the world’ theme, but we do have the power of friendship and I guess that’s enough for us to survive and somehow make this world a better place (:D). Friendship never ends, SUPERFRIENDS forever.

Friends to me are like family and I thank God for having them in my life. Years from now, a lot of things may change. But surely, nothing can change the bond that I have with them. I love them. I just don’t show it as often as I should like giving cards or anything like that. But I will always be smiling at the thought of having one of the greatest gifts ever received-FRIENDS.