Who have you found?

Life is the process of finding LOVE; every person will need to find four people in their life. First person is yourself, Second person is the one you love most, Third person is the one who love you most, and the fourth, is the one you spend the rest of your life with.

In life, firstly you will meet with the one you love most, and learn how love feels. Because you know how love feels, so you can find the person who loves you most. When you have experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one you love most doesn't love you. The one who love you most is never the one you love most. And the one you spend your life with is never the one you love most or the one who love you most. He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time. Which person are you in other people life? No person will purposely have a change of heart. At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. But when he doesn't love you anymore, he really doesn't love you anymore. When he loves you, he can pretend that he doesn't. Same goes, when he loves you no more, there's no way he can pretend he loves you. When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you. You must ask yourself if you still love him, If you also don't love him anymore, don't ever not let him leave just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves most, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don’t love him, And if you don't love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart? Love is not possessive. If you like the moon, you can just take it down and put it in your basin. But the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you can use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in you life. If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points and the bad. You can wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he can change to become what you like him to be, you don't love him anymore. When you really love a person, you cannot find reason why you love him. You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad mood, you will wish to have this person be with you.

Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end. Being away from each other is a type of test. If the relationship isn't strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate. When two people are in love they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises. Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they don't trust each other, they don't trust their lover. This swears and promises are useless. Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change! We all know that the sky will never fall, the ocean will never dry. Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then? Be careful when making promises, don't make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Remember, Swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching! In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; the one saying doesn't believe; the one listening, also doesn't believe. So who have you found?

Author's point of view...

It really is hard loving someone who doesn't love you and whom you don't love. For me, it is pointless loving someone who doesn't love you back because in the long run it will not work out you are just going in circles...

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Chance or Choice

I have an article here regarding chance or choice. Do enjoy reading and ponder on this...


Choice or Chance
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When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right
place at the right time, that's chance.

When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice.
That's chance.

Being caught up in a moment (and there are a lot of couples who
get together because of this) is not a choice.
That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards.
When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-
blowing attraction to the next level?
That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate
whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or
just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not
a chance. That's choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matter what,
that's choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there who are more
attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you
decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance.
But true love that lasts is truly a choice.
A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I
believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together,
but it's still up to you to make it happen."

I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly
someone made for you. But it's still up to you to make the
choice if you're going to do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with
our soulmate is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love,
BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.

~Author Unknown~

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BestFriends

B E S T F R I E N D S

You are my best friend through thick and thin.

When you reach for my hand you touch my heart.

You are the bestest friend that I can have.

You are there for me when I need you the most.

You cheer me up when I am down.

If I am about to cry u make me smile.

You are my bestest friend and I cannot lie.

You listen to me and give me advice,

advice that comes straight from the bottom of your precious heart.

You are my best friend in the whole wide world

and I couldn't ask God for a little bit more.

I'd like to mean as much to you as you mean to me.

I'd like to be some help to you as you have been to me.

I'd like to know that as we grow old our lives will change but that our Friendship will still remain.

-- Francia Diego --

This poem is much like what my friend Lhea had. She had form a close bond with Jeff (now his boyfriend) but before they had become more than friends they had become the best of friends other than us the superfwens that is. It is odd and yet awe-inspiring at the same time. There may be cases of hesitation thinking of the “IF’s”…. What if the relationship didn’t work or what would happen to the friendship they had before if they broke up? For me, I would be very hesitant to go through what she had however if he were worth risking for then I’d gladly take the battle. Nevertheless, I think she’s finally “in love” because you can see it in her smiling eyes and the way they hold hands. (hmmmm…. I sound envious). Well, it really is envious to see couples that complement each other. May their love be as colorful as the rainbow. Also, I hope he was the one that my friend had prayed for in a partner. Luv yah gurl….

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SinGapoRe

This is my friend Glynis Maureen, a BS Business Management graduate student at XU, who got guts, beauty and brain…

She went to Singapore I think last year if I’m not mistaken. It was a really gutsy thing to do but lucky for her she has a brother from Singapore who was working in an IT company. (I think?)… You can see her photos below...

I am really envious of this friend of mine because she had a date with Christian Bautista and luckily had a job at Cebu as a call center agent.

Moreover, she even had a few stories to tell while she was in Singapore but it will be quite boring for you to read and I haven’t had all the details. All I can say was it was adventurous to visit neighboring countries and risky to crossed the borders with only a tourist visa however, I believe she did enjoy her stay there even though for awhile.

This one was when she was riding a cable car. You can see a cruise... How nice!!!











She's at the ZON regency hotel by the sea.

The Zon Regency Hotel by the sea is a contemporary 16 storey hotel with 400 guest rooms, including 318 Deluxe Rooms, 49 Club Deluxe rooms, 15 Club Suites & 15 Corner Suites. All rooms have air-conditioning control, direct-dial phone with voice mail/message system, remote controlled multi-channels television and radio, well-stocked mini bar, coffee/tea making facilities, electronic safe and hair dryer. All suites have dining/living room with kitchenette. The Club Floor has a private club lounge, complimentary coffee/tea and a selection of local and international newspapers and magazines.



She was with her cousins at Sentosa Island Beach

Sentosa Island

Known as the isle of peace and tranquility Sentosa is the beach resort of Singapore, a stark contrast to the frantic hubbub of Singapore. The isalnd contains many attractions such as Images of Singapore (a series of diorams depicting life in early Singapore, the surrender of the japanese and other festivals and customs), Underwater World, Fort Siloso (an epitaph to World War 2 and the defence of Singapore), Merlion Tower, and the Musical Fountain.

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Friends then lovers....

I haven’t thought of anything quite captivating to talk about but I have realized that what I had into months before was quite intriguing. Here goes my story…

I had a friend but before that he was my crush (my almost perfect kind of guy). I was attracted with him the first time I saw him wearing his ROTC uniform in my algebra class at Xavier and I even had all the details of who he was, where he lives and all that I need to know (who is his girl at that moment). Moreover, I didn’t thought that we would cross our paths at PHYSICS which was quite fascinating because it was also at that subject that he went to me and asks for my notes (thanks a lot to my notes!! It pays when you jot down notes). It went well after that… He knows me by name and then it came that we became friends. He even gave me advices with regards to men and in return I have help him with his studies. To make it short, we became “lovers”. He started saying things I have never thought he would because his kind of girl was not half as I could be and I haven’t even thought in my wildest dreams that we would be “lovers”.

At that moment, he had a girlfriend and I had a boyfriend also which was wrong at the first place. Right? It seems that we had the right love at the wrong time but I don’t think its called love. Yes, it was something I longed but in the end it would never be. Why? Because what I had felt towards him was purely the physical aspect. However, it was a love affair worth reminiscing because if it came that I would meet someone as sweet and thoughtful as he was I could really love him forever until the end of time. (Does that sound a lyric from a song?). He would say charming words that would make your heart melt away, he would do things or buy things just to please you and all the sweetness that he had that I have never thought he could and he have innately.

The love affair ended a month after because I couldn't take my conscience that keeps on bugging me. Maybe that was the toughest decisions I’d make but its something to reminisce when I get old…. I just hope that he would be happy of what he was doing now and I’m praying that KARMA wouldn’t pay me a visit not literally though…. Hehehheheh..

If you had some time.. you can check the unofficial webzine of Cagayan de Oro City. It's an online magazine for kagay-anons

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the super_friends

“Friendship is the comfort, the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring all right out just as they are, chaff and grain together, certain that a faithful friendly hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping and, with a breath of comfort, blow the rest away.”

I have form a special friendship with this four amazing ladies and one undeniably handsome gentleman. These are great buddies where you count on with regards to comfort and reassuring. They would cheer you up when you’re down and helpless. We might have down moments however it made as closer and sronger. This bind of friendship started from me, Louella and Shielamae and then came along Stephanie, Lhea and Julius.

What’s nice between our friendship is because we compliment each other. All of us have different talents, skills and personalities. We still continue to see each other until now and we are hoping that until we grow old we would still be friends till the end.

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